Well I didn’t let Riley CIO for naps or bedtime today after we called a truce yesterday. Naps today were a bit rough but he slept so that was the important thing. But here’s the surprising thing: Riley self soothed himself to sleep at bedtime. Has he done that before? Nope!
Imagine my surprise when I put Riley in his bassinet when he got drowsy, turned on his Sleep Sheep and left the room. He was cooing away to himself and I was fully expecting him to cry out in a few minutes. I sat down and as tarted to watch some TV… Until I noticed that there were no sounds coming from the bedroom. I screened in there to check on Riley; he was fast asleep. The little guy had self-soothed himself to sleep!
I’m hoping that he continues to self-sooth but I don’t expect it… I’m just happy that I know he at least has the ability to do it!
I’m exhausted… Riley’s exhausted… I think we’ve called a truce. At least for the next few months. I’ve come to the conclusion that Riley may just be too young to try this method right now. I’d rather he fight going to sleep than only sleep for 20 minutes at a time and be totally exhausted and cranky.
Instead of the CIO method, I’m trying out the “pick up and put down” method. So far this seems to be working and napping his usually time between 1hr-2hr.
On another note, Riley has been having longer waking time. He’s more vocal now; lots of cooing and smiling.
It was a success!!! As in it was a success that Riley figured it out and has declared war *sigh*.
We made a trip to the mall yesterday morning just to get out of the house and do a bit of grocery shopping and Riley was great. He normally fusses a bit when he’s tired and wants to take a nap causing our trips to be cut short but yesterday he actually fell asleep in his stroller. It wasn’t a long nap but I’m not dwelling on that. When we got home however, it was a different story. Riley started showing signs of tiredness (ie. red eyebrows, droopy eyes yawning etc) so I picked him up, patted him a couple times until he started to get drowsy, put him in his bassinet and turn on his Sleep Sheep. I walked out of the room while he was still awake. 5mins later the crying started. After 10mins I went in there to check on him and let him know that I was there and when he calmed down I left the room again. The crying lasted for 30mins and his nap lasted 20mins. Riley ended up taking only 3 naps yesterday, including the one at the mall, each of which was only 20 minutes. Needless to that that by the time hubby came home I was frustrated and exhausted.
We could tell Riley was beyond overtired at that point which was 6:30pm. The problem wasn’t Riley not being able to fall asleep, it was him staying asleep. He was so overwrought that everytime he fell asleep, he would constantly startle himself awake = he can’t fall into a deep sleep.
Hubby and I ended up putting Riley to bed earlier than usual which is around 8pm. We skipped his bedtime story because he was just screaming the entire time and since I breastfeed, I kept my boob in or close to his mouth so he can latch when he finally tired himself out enough to feed. Riley has been falling asleep while nursing at night for the last week but would wake up once we moved him into his bassinet and last night was no different; hubby and I decided to let him cry it out a bit so we can eat our dinner. After I finished boy dinner, I went in to check on Riley and he was just drenched in sweat. I just felt so bad for him because he was clearly tired and wanted to sleep but wasn’t able to stay asleep. I sat beside him and put my hand on him to let him know I was there and the entire time he was startling himself awake. He finally was tired enough that he didn’t wake from the startling. I thought for sure that he would have a fitful sleep and be up every 1-2 hours. He surprised me with sleeping until 3:45am when I heard him cry out a few times, so I got up and was going to nurse him but saw that he was still sleeping. I left him continue sleeping until he finally woke at 6am.
Morning naps doesn’t seem to be a problem for him since he just falls asleep while nursing but it’s his afternoon naps Gand evening naps that are getting frustrating. We’ll see who ends up losing the battle… There can only be one winner!
Day 3 coming soon.
Yes, I am one of ‘those’ parents. I have chosen to let my 3.5 month old son cry it out to save my sanity. I don’t know yet if I have made the right choice yet given that Riley was also born at 34.5 weeks, which puts him currently at 2.5 months adjusted age.
Initially Riley didn’t have too much of a problem going down at bedtime. We ran into a kafffufal during nap time and it took me a while to figure out what the problem was and I have to admit, it was a major mom fail. It’s summer and I thought that Riley was too warm in his sleeper so I dressed him only in a onesie. Every time I would try to put him down for a nap, he would either only nap for 20-30 minutes or not nap at all and need. Getting overtired and waaaaay cranky. This was not good for a baby so young. I even called my mom for some advice. She had babysat for me one afternoon so I could do some cleaning and got him to nap for 2 hours! I did some googling and started swaddling him for his naps. Well the first nap I swaddle him in, he fell asleep almost instantly and was down for about 1.5 hours. Eureka! I continued to swaddle him for naps… Until it no longer worked anymore. It wasn’t until a fated morning where I met up wit another mom from a baby Facebook group that I’m in for the lightbulb to go off in my head.
It was a sunny but chilly morning and the other mom asked me if Riley doesn’t get too cold wearing only a onesie. She told me that her little guy always has cold hands and feet so she puts him in sleepers all the time. Well It never occurred to me that Riley would be cold; his hands and feet were mostly clammy and some times warm. When we got one, I put him in a sleeper to see if that was the problem… I had never felt more like a mom failure. My boy was too cold to sleep! The next nap he had, he was wearing a sleeper and I put an Aden and Anais Swaddling Blanket (LOVE these by the way! I paid extra and bought the Bamboo Muslin) over him and he was out for almost 3 hours. I had a blissful 2 weeks… Until Riley decided to switch things up and throw a hissy fit at bedtime.
Hubs and I has rocked Riley to sleep since day one. We were waiting till after we moved to try and break the habit but I decided that today was the day; Riley had started to fight being put down for a nap as well. I was so exhausted and frustrated with his crying and screaming that I decided to try letting him CIO for his last nap of the day. Riley cried for maybe 20mins, but felt more like an hour. I went I. To check on him, patted him to let him know I’m there and he fell asleep. I knew he wasn’t going to sleep long… 20mins to be exact but at leas I knew the method worked for him. So we tried it again at bedtime. Riley cried for 17mins with me checking on him every 5 mins. He woke again at 3:30am but that was for a feed.
stay tuned for Day 2!
Well more like happy night. The last few weeks have been cray-zay! Had to list and find a renter for our condo, furniture shopping and last but not least, pack! And we’re still packing. Moving while you have newborn is not fun! We’ve been packing for the last week now and and still have along way to go. We close next week and moving day is the day after. Here’s to looking forward to that day!
Currently our condo is looking every inch a bit of a disaster zone. Boxes stacked up taller than me (I’m 5’2″). How is it possible for two people to have so much stuff anyways?! Needless to say, the fur babies are none too please right now either.
I would show you all a pic of what my place looks like, but I don’t want to give anyone any nightmares lol.